exercise · all tools

Rose, Bud, Thorn

Depth · what it can open●●○○2 — reflective
Holding · facilitation1 — host
Trust · group readinessany
Disclosure · what is sharedoptional

Each person names a rose (something going well), a bud (something new or full of possibility) and a thorn (something hard), then picks who goes next. Simple enough for a company meeting or a family dinner; the manual's own additions include compost and weed.

Practical

Time
5-30 min
Group
2 · pairs, small-group, large-group
Settings
in-person, online
Mechanisms
narrative-identity, dialogic-encounter
Change scope
state → skill · recurring-practice

Instructions

Where
authrev.org/ar-games-manual Authentic Relating Games Manual, paid
Availability
In the source document — the instructions live inside the material linked, on its terms
Licence
CC BY-SA 4.0 (Authentic Relating Games Manual)

Source link checked 31 Aug 2026 — unchanged since we recorded it on 29 Aug 2026

This directory describes and points home; the instructions stay with the people who made them.

Origin

Origin unknown, seen across many communities; write-up by Sara Ness and Norian Caporale-Berkowitz (AuthTeams) — Widely used check-in; codified in Authentic Relating (Authentic Relating Games Manual, 2025 edition)

In this directory via Authentic Relating Games Manual

Related: Team Check-in (alternative-to) · Meeting check-ins (alternative-to)

The manual also offers it as feedback on a project or group dynamic, and as a reflection between people who know each other, on their connection.

status: checked · added 2026-08-31