exercise · all tools
Requests Training
One partner asks the other for a die, or a sweet, over and over for a couple of minutes; the holder gives it only when the asking feels genuine — and it is handed straight back to be asked for again. Then stems for the holder: 'I gave/didn't give you the die when I felt ___', 'a pattern I noticed in how you asked was…'. A study in how we go about wanting things.
- The Conviction Game variation allows 'any means possible' to persuade; the manual has partners negotiate boundaries first, and that step is not optional
Practical
- Time
- 5-15 min
- Group
- 2–∞ · pairs
- Settings
- in-person
- Materials
- A die, a sweet, or another small object per pair
- Mechanisms
- behavioral-rehearsal, dialogic-encounter, feedback-mirroring
- Change scope
- state → skill · repeatable
Instructions
- Where
- authrev.org/ar-games-manual — Authentic Relating Games Manual, paid
- Availability
- In the source document — the instructions live inside the material linked, on its terms
- Licence
- CC BY-SA 4.0 (Authentic Relating Games Manual)
Source link checked 31 Aug 2026 — unchanged since we recorded it on 29 Aug 2026
This directory describes and points home; the instructions stay with the people who made them.
Origin
Authentic Houston — Authentic Relating (Authentic Relating Games Manual, 2025 edition)
In this directory via Authentic Relating Games Manual
Related: The Giving Game ("Would You?") (prepares-for)
Variations in the manual: Saying No, and Conviction Game. The manual offers it as a precursor to the Giving Game or for a theme on desire.
status: checked · added 2026-08-31