practice · all tools

B.G.D.V.F. Connection

Depth · what it can open●●●3 — emotional
Holding · facilitation0 — self-guided
Trust · group readiness★★some
Disclosure · what is sharedrequired

Two people share, in order, a brag, a gratitude, a desire, a vulnerability and a fear from the day or the time since they last met, each with its own sentence stem. Written by a partner who found that doing it nightly brought a couple closer; the sequence walks from easy to exposed.

Hold with care
  • The last two stems ask for a vulnerability and a fear; designed for people who already share a life, and the manual offers no facilitation because it assumes none — between newer acquaintances, treat it as the disclosure exercise it is

Practical

Time
5-10 min
Group
2 · pairs
Settings
in-person, online
Mechanisms
narrative-identity, dialogic-encounter, emotional-processing
Change scope
state → skill · recurring-practice

Instructions

Where
authrev.org/ar-games-manual Authentic Relating Games Manual, paid
Availability
In the source document — the instructions live inside the material linked, on its terms
Licence
CC BY-SA 4.0 (Authentic Relating Games Manual)

Source link checked 31 Aug 2026 — unchanged since we recorded it on 29 Aug 2026

This directory describes and points home; the instructions stay with the people who made them.

Origin

Surelys Galano (Boulder and Los Angeles groups) — Authentic Relating (Authentic Relating Games Manual, 2025 edition)

In this directory via Authentic Relating Games Manual

status: checked · added 2026-08-31