exercise · all tools

Try Me On

Depth · what it can open●●●3 — emotional
Holding · facilitation3 — space-holder
Trust · group readiness★★★established
Disclosure · what is sharedoptional

Answer 'Who am I? I am…' in a circle, then take off as much clothing as feels comfortable and pass it to the person on your left, put on what you are handed, move around the room as that, and answer the question again. The manual calls it edgy but highly insightful, suggests swimsuits underneath and a separate room for the swap, and offers a two-people-at-a-time version.

Prerequisites

  • A group that has agreed in advance to an exercise involving undressing; the manual's swimsuit and separate-room suggestions are the minimum, not extras
Hold with care
  • The exposure here is bodily, not verbal, which the disclosure axis does not measure; consent has to be explicit and re-askable at each pass of clothing
  • Wearing another person's clothes touches identity in ways the manual calls insightful and does not otherwise prepare for — gender, body, class can all surface
  • Not an exercise for a workplace, and the manual's own framing (an Authentic Leadership Training) says where it belongs

Practical

Time
15-30 min
Group
4 · small-group, large-group
Settings
in-person
Mechanisms
somatic-awareness, perspective-taking, creative-expression
Change scope
state → skill · repeatable

Instructions

Where
authrev.org/ar-games-manual Authentic Relating Games Manual, paid
Availability
In the source document — the instructions live inside the material linked, on its terms
Licence
CC BY-SA 4.0 (Authentic Relating Games Manual)

Source link checked 31 Aug 2026 — unchanged since we recorded it on 29 Aug 2026

This directory describes and points home; the instructions stay with the people who made them.

Origin

Abbi Jaffe (Authentic Burlington), for an Authentic Leadership Training — Authentic Relating (Authentic Relating Games Manual, 2025 edition)

In this directory via Authentic Relating Games Manual

Variation in the manual: Changelings — two people swap, introduce themselves as the other's traits, and stay in that persona.

status: checked · added 2026-08-31