exercise · all tools

The Seems

Depth · what it can open●●●3 — emotional
Holding · facilitation2 — facilitator
Trust · group readiness★★some
Disclosure · what is sharedoptional

Popcorn-style stems that move through four positions: 'I seem…', then 'you seem…' (choosing a person to project onto), 'we seem…', and 'the context is…' — with 'my context is…' as an option. The manual singles out 'we seem' as a game on its own for tracking a group's energy, and suggests 'what's not being spoken here is…' as its follow-up.

Hold with care
  • 'You seem…' is a projection spoken aloud to a chosen person; the manual gives no guidance on receiving one, and a facilitator should

Practical

Time
10-20 min
Group
2 · pairs, small-group
Settings
in-person, online
Mechanisms
perspective-taking, feedback-mirroring, systems-sensing
Change scope
state → skill · repeatable

Instructions

Where
authrev.org/ar-games-manual Authentic Relating Games Manual, paid
Availability
In the source document — the instructions live inside the material linked, on its terms
Licence
CC BY-SA 4.0 (Authentic Relating Games Manual)

Source link checked 31 Aug 2026 — unchanged since we recorded it on 29 Aug 2026

This directory describes and points home; the instructions stay with the people who made them.

Origin

Sara Ness, for the Authentic Leadership Training — Authentic Relating (Authentic Relating Games Manual, 2025 edition)

In this directory via Authentic Relating Games Manual

Related: Perspective Yoga (pairs-with)

status: checked · added 2026-08-31