exercise · all tools

The Leader Game

Depth · what it can open●●●3 — emotional
Holding · facilitation2 — facilitator
Trust · group readiness★★some
Disclosure · what is sharedoptional

One person on a higher chair has full control of the space for five to ten minutes and may do anything with it — spend it deciding, seek consensus, issue orders. Whatever happens is the material: for the group, what it was like to be led by this person; for the leader, what unlimited choice and power brought up.

Hold with care
  • 'Full control of the space' is the game's premise and the manual sets no limit on it; the group's agreements still apply, and the facilitator should say so before the first leader sits down

Practical

Time
20-40 min
Group
? · small-group, large-group
Settings
in-person
Mechanisms
behavioral-rehearsal, feedback-mirroring, perspective-taking
Change scope
state → skill · repeatable

Instructions

Where
authrev.org/ar-games-manual Authentic Relating Games Manual, paid
Availability
In the source document — the instructions live inside the material linked, on its terms
Licence
CC BY-SA 4.0 (Authentic Relating Games Manual)

Source link checked 31 Aug 2026 — unchanged since we recorded it on 29 Aug 2026

This directory describes and points home; the instructions stay with the people who made them.

Origin

Amy Silverman (The Connection Movement, New York) — Authentic Relating (Authentic Relating Games Manual, 2025 edition)

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status: checked · added 2026-08-31