exercise · all tools
See and Be Seen
Mill, stop, close your eyes; on opening, one partner silently sees while the other is seen, then swap, then both at once, closing the eyes in between to return to yourself — all without a word. The manual calls it surprisingly insightful and vulnerable for something this simple, and suggests following it with another pair exercise.
- Being looked at in silence is the whole exercise; people who find it hard have no verbal exit, so name closing the eyes as always available
Practical
- Time
- 5-10 min
- Group
- 2–∞ · pairs, small-group, large-group
- Settings
- in-person
- Mechanisms
- attention-training, dialogic-encounter
- Change scope
- state → skill · repeatable
Instructions
- Where
- authrev.org/ar-games-manual — Authentic Relating Games Manual, paid
- Availability
- In the source document — the instructions live inside the material linked, on its terms
- Licence
- CC BY-SA 4.0 (Authentic Relating Games Manual)
Source link checked 31 Aug 2026 — unchanged since we recorded it on 29 Aug 2026
This directory describes and points home; the instructions stay with the people who made them.
Origin
Experienced by the author in a Circling Europe immersion (John and Sean) and in Circling Institute workshops — Circling; carried into Authentic Relating (Authentic Relating Games Manual, 2025 edition)
In this directory via Authentic Relating Games Manual
Variation in the manual: Appreciative Sight, and a Spotlight form where one person is seen and accepted by the whole group for four to six minutes.
status: checked · added 2026-08-31