exercise · all tools

Meet My Essence

Depth · what it can open●●●3 — emotional
Holding · facilitation3 — space-holder
Trust · group readiness★★some
Disclosure · what is sharedrequired

Mill and introduce yourself as the self you first show people — and say how and why you show up that way: 'I'm really loving and warm and soft when I meet people, so you HAVE to love me.' A participant called it five years of therapy in fifteen minutes; the manual says it leads to tears and cheers and that space for shares is essential.

Hold with care
  • The 'why' is where the game lives and where it cuts — the manual's own examples are about the pain of not being welcomed and the fear of being found displeasing
  • The Meet My Light and Shadow variation asks for the self that appears when under-resourced; that is deeper than the base game and needs the same shares

Practical

Time
30-45 min
Group
? · small-group, large-group
Settings
in-person
Mechanisms
narrative-identity, dialogic-encounter, emotional-processing
Change scope
state → skill · repeatable

Instructions

Where
authrev.org/ar-games-manual Authentic Relating Games Manual, paid
Availability
In the source document — the instructions live inside the material linked, on its terms
Licence
CC BY-SA 4.0 (Authentic Relating Games Manual)

Source link checked 31 Aug 2026 — unchanged since we recorded it on 29 Aug 2026

This directory describes and points home; the instructions stay with the people who made them.

Origin

Erin Brandt, long-time Authentic World / AMP coach and founder of the Appreciating Men workshops; variation by Sara Ness — Authentic Relating (Authentic Relating Games Manual, 2025 edition)

In this directory via Authentic Relating Games Manual

Variation in the manual: Meet My Light and Shadow — introduce the self that shows up under-resourced, then the self at your best.

status: checked · added 2026-08-31