exercise · all tools
Context Conversation
A conversation held entirely in the stem 'Right now, I would ___ because ___' — the thing you would do, and the motive under it, which can go several 'because's down: 'I would ask you a question, because I feel nervous and don't want the attention on me.' One of the manual's favourite routes to self-awareness, with easier on-ramps for groups that find it hard.
Practical
- Time
- 10-20 min
- Group
- 2–5 · pairs, small-group
- Settings
- in-person, online
- Mechanisms
- dialogic-encounter, cognitive-reframing, narrative-identity
- Change scope
- state → skill · repeatable
Instructions
- Where
- authrev.org/ar-games-manual — Authentic Relating Games Manual, paid
- Availability
- In the source document — the instructions live inside the material linked, on its terms
- Licence
- CC BY-SA 4.0 (Authentic Relating Games Manual)
Source link checked 31 Aug 2026 — unchanged since we recorded it on 29 Aug 2026
This directory describes and points home; the instructions stay with the people who made them.
Origin
Sara Ness, inspired — she says — by the best OkCupid message she ever received — Authentic Relating (Authentic Relating Games Manual, 2025 edition)
In this directory via Authentic Relating Games Manual
Ways in, from the manual: add the 'because' later; use 'I want to…' instead; or Attempted Normalcy, switching between ordinary conversation and this.
status: checked · added 2026-08-31