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Constellations
In a large circle, on each prompt everyone finds the one person for whom it is most true — the person you respect most, feel least connected to, would most like to work with, have a withhold for, are most attracted to — walks over and puts a hand on their shoulder; hands behind the head means sitting this one out. Then look at where the clusters formed and who stands alone. The manual is direct that it is edgy, that people go unchosen, and that it suits long-term groups.
Prerequisites
- The manual's own: long-term or experienced groups and communities, unless only surface prompts are used
- Someone will not be chosen, and the manual names the 'popularity' triggers that follow; the facilitator chooses the prompts and therefore how much of that happens
- Involves a hand on another person's shoulder; the hands-behind-head opt-out covers being touched as well as choosing
Practical
- Time
- 45 min
- Group
- 8–∞ · large-group
- Settings
- in-person
- Mechanisms
- systems-sensing, feedback-mirroring, somatic-awareness
- Change scope
- state → skill · repeatable
Instructions
- Where
- authrev.org/ar-games-manual — Authentic Relating Games Manual, paid
- Availability
- In the source document — the instructions live inside the material linked, on its terms
- Licence
- CC BY-SA 4.0 (Authentic Relating Games Manual)
Source link checked 31 Aug 2026 — unchanged since we recorded it on 29 Aug 2026
This directory describes and points home; the instructions stay with the people who made them.
Origin
First encountered by Sara Ness at the Toronto Feel. Connect. Expand. retreat — Authentic Relating (Authentic Relating Games Manual, 2025 edition); sociometry
In this directory via Authentic Relating Games Manual
status: checked · added 2026-08-31