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Frustration Station
Think of someone you struggle to be authentic with — the manual calls them 'the Jerk' and admits some people dislike that — and embody them while your partner tries to relate to them authentically; exchange impact; brief your partner on the person; then they embody the Jerk and you try. Intense, the manual says, and useful for understanding the people we cannot quite reach.
- The person embodied is often a parent — the manual's own example is 'my dad' — and stepping into them can bring up more than frustration
- The manual suggests giving the instructions step by step rather than all at once, which also keeps the facilitator close to each pair
Practical
- Time
- 30-45 min
- Group
- 2–∞ · pairs
- Settings
- in-person, online
- Mechanisms
- behavioral-rehearsal, perspective-taking, dialogic-encounter, emotional-processing
- Change scope
- state → skill · repeatable
Instructions
- Where
- authrev.org/ar-games-manual — Authentic Relating Games Manual, paid
- Availability
- In the source document — the instructions live inside the material linked, on its terms
- Licence
- CC BY-SA 4.0 (Authentic Relating Games Manual)
Source link checked 31 Aug 2026 — unchanged since we recorded it on 29 Aug 2026
This directory describes and points home; the instructions stay with the people who made them.
Origin
Annabeth Novitski (Austin Love Juggernaut), created with Sara Ness during an Authentic Leadership and Facilitation Training — Authentic Relating (Authentic Relating Games Manual, 2025 edition)
In this directory via Authentic Relating Games Manual
status: checked · added 2026-08-31