exercise · all tools

Change

Depth · what it can open●●○○2 — reflective
Holding · facilitation1 — host
Trust · group readinessany
Disclosure · what is sharedoptional

One partner tells a story; whenever the other says 'change!', the last thing said has to change. Mostly fun, the manual says — until the Therapeutic variation, where a true, charged story is changed into what you wish had happened, which it compares to Gestalt work.

Hold with care
  • The Therapeutic variation rewrites a true story with emotional charge into the wished-for version; the manual calls it very powerful, and it is a depth-3 exercise in a depth-2 record

Practical

Time
15-45 min
Group
2 · pairs, small-group
Settings
in-person, online
Mechanisms
creative-expression, cognitive-reframing, narrative-identity
Change scope
state → skill · repeatable

Instructions

Where
authrev.org/ar-games-manual Authentic Relating Games Manual, paid
Availability
In the source document — the instructions live inside the material linked, on its terms
Licence
CC BY-SA 4.0 (Authentic Relating Games Manual)

Source link checked 31 Aug 2026 — unchanged since we recorded it on 29 Aug 2026

This directory describes and points home; the instructions stay with the people who made them.

Origin

First played by the author at the Integral Center in Boulder; analogues exist in improv — Improv; carried into Authentic Relating (Authentic Relating Games Manual, 2025 edition)

In this directory via Authentic Relating Games Manual

Variations in the manual: Truthful, Therapeutic, Perspectival, and A Little More…

status: checked · added 2026-08-31